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DATING 101 ADVICE AND TIPS - FROM THE OTHER SIDE
1. Manhatten sidewalks are dangerous. Beware of the metal grating that
is found on many of Manhatten's sidewalks. With the size and shape of
heels nowadays, one step too hard may result in you losing your date (or her
shoe for that matter) in Manhatten forever. Dont be alarmed if you are
occasionally nudged to the right or left side of the sidewalk for this reason.
2. DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT walk 4 steps ahead of your date. It is rude
and utterly insensitive to stride ahead of your date while she is struggling to
keep up a half a block back. Take it easy! theres no train, plane....to catch.
3.Sharing a Dvar Torah, Sicha, Maamar etc.. is great and an important
thing to do on a date. However, anything longer than 10 minutes at one time
mighthave to be s aved for your chavrusa.
4. Be generous with drinks, and consequently, aware of the nearest
facilities.
5. When picking up your date, BE ON TIME. To avoid the "I cant be there
first" syndrome, girls tend to circle around Bedford and Lincoln(or
some other insane meeting spot in the middle of Africa) until their date
arrives.
It is therefore best to be there 2-3 minutes early.
6. If rain is in the forecast, its mentchlich to bring umbrellas....(If
a blizzard is in the forecast you are not obligated to bring boots,
sleds, and gloves)
7. Always come prepared with directions to your destination. If (or should i
say when) you get lost, asking directions from somone on the street is
a great way to prove your'e not the male stereotype.
8. MAJOR TURN OFF: DO NOT describe in full detail and genuine
excitement how your Yeshiva provided maids for you who cooked, cleaned,
baked, made your beds, and basically kissed the ground you walked on,
because hey! is that what you're looking for in a wife?!??!
9. Tomorrow is another day!! most girls nowadays are waking up as early
as 6 am, to work long and hard every day, as a teacher, student, shlucha
etc.. do not stay out too late! A chazaka of yawns usually means its time to
head home.
10. Rules of thumb: Do not compliment your date on her clothes...save
that for marriage im"h when it will be appropriately appreciated.
Discussing previous dates is a no no. It is confidential info and should not be a
topic of discussion.
To all Lubavitcher Bochurim everywhere sheyichyu: Continue being involved
in the Rebbes inyonim and lets pray for the imminent arrival of Moshiach
Now!
Simchas by all!!!
A Lubavitch girl on the dating scene
